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1 | A School in the US Teaches Korean Dads ‘How to Hug’ | Sekoly Iray Ao Etazonia Mampianatra Ireo Raim-pianakaviana Koreana ‘Ny Fomba Famihina’ |
2 | The Duranno Father School teaches stoic Korean dads how to be more involved and loving parents. | Ny Sekolin'ny Raim-pianakaviana Duranno, mampianatra ireo raim-pianakaviana Koreana ahoana no fomba atao mba hifandray akaiky kokoa sy mba ho ray amandreny maneho fitiavana. |
3 | The program includes a literal lesson on how to hug. | Ahitana lesona ara-bakiteny ny fomba famihina ao anatin'ny fandaharam-pianarana. |
4 | Credit: Courtesy of the Duranno Father School | Sary: Natolotr'i Duranno, Sekolin'ny Raim-pianakaviana. |
5 | This article and radio report by Heidi Shin for The World originally appeared on PRI.org on October 28, 2015, and is republished here as part of a content-sharing agreement. | Ity lahatsoratra sy tatitra anaty onjam-peo nataon'i Heidi Shin ho an'ny The World ity dia niseho tao amin'ny PRI.org ny 28 Oktobra 2015, ary naverina navoaka indray teto ho ampahany amin'ny fifanekena mifampizara votoaty. |
6 | “I'm not into the habit of hugging,” says Jason Chang, age 47. | “Tsy manam-pahazarana mifamihina aho”, hoy Jason Chang, 47 taona. |
7 | “Being a Korean guy, when I was growing up, my father and mother, we didn't really hug.” | “Amin'ny maha-lehilahy Koreana, rehefa nitombo aho, ny raiko sy reniko, tsy tena nifamihina izany mihintsy izahay.” |
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9 | Chang is a student at the Duranno Father School in Centreville, Virginia - home to a growing Korean community. | Mpianatra ao amin'ny Sekolin'ny Raim-pianakaviana Duranno ao Centreville, Virginia i Chang - toeram-ponenan'ny vondrom-piarahamonina Koreana tsy mitsaha-mitombo. |
10 | The Father School is a four-day retreat of sorts, designed to transform stoic Korean dads into more loving and involved parents. | Ilay Sekolin'ny Raim-pianakaviana dia efatr'andro natao hisintahana amin'ny endriny rehetra, novolavolaina ho fanovàna ireo raim-pianakaviana Koreana mafy lamosina mba ho ray amandreny maneho fitiavana sy mandray andraikitra kokoa. |
11 | The oldest student is in his 70s, the youngest is just 27, and almost all have something in common - their wives made them come. | 70 taona ny mpianatra antitra indrindra, vao 27 taona kosa ny tanora indrindra, ary ireo rehetra ireo dia manana zavatra iraisana - ny vadin'izy ireo no nahatonga azy ireo hankao. |
12 | “She basically signed up and said, this is the start date. | “Amin'ny ankapobeny dia ikàla no nanaiky sady niteny fa, ity no fotoana fanombohana. |
13 | Go ahead and go,” Chang confesses. | Mirosoa ka mandehana” hoy i Chang mibaboka. |
14 | “But I'm glad I did it. | “Fa faly aho nanao azy io. |
15 | They had homework, you know, that I normally wouldn't do. It gave me some insights.” | Nanana asa entimody ry zareo, fantatrao, fa raha amin'izao fotsiny tsy hanao aho. Nanome ahy fomba fijery vitsivitsy io.” |
16 | Students are asked to reflect on their experiences with their own fathers - and what they're like as dads themselves. | Nasaina nieritreritra izay niainany niaraka tamin'ireo rainy avy ireo mpianatra - ary izay maha izy azy ireo amin'ny maha-ray azy. |
17 | Credit: Heidi Shin. | Sary: Heidi Shin. |
18 | Used with PRI's permission | Nampiasaina niaraka tamin'ny fanomezandàlan'i PRI |
19 | We're in a church fellowship hall, where a live band plays modern Christian hymns, and the men sing along, followed by lectures and activities, including a lesson literally on how to hug. | Ato anaty trano fihaonan'ny fiangonana izahay, izay misy tarika iray miventy mivantana ireo hira kristianina, sady miara-mihira avokoa ireo lehilahy, arahan'ireo vakiteny sy asa, ao anatin'izany ny lesona ara-bakiteny mikasika ny fomba famihina. |
20 | One arm here, bring the other person close, and no patting on the back. | Ny tànana iray eto, misintona olona hanatona, ary tsy mandondona lamosina. |
21 | Then there are small group discussions that resemble both group therapy and a locker room huddle. | Avy eo misy ireo vondrona madinika fifanakalozan-kevitra izay sady mitovy amin'ny ekipa misahana ny fitsaboana no toy toerana fisoloana akanjo. |
22 | A volunteer in his 40s talks to a younger man in his 20s. | Miresaka aminà lehilhahy iray tanora kokoa 20 taona ny mpilatsaka an-tsitrapo iray 40 taona. |
23 | “Do you think your father loved you?” he asks. | “Eritreretinao ve fa tia anao ny rainao?” hoy izy manontany. |
24 | The younger man pauses, and the older one answers for him. | Miato kely ilay tovolahy, ary mamaly azy ilay iray zokinjokiny. |
25 | “Yes he did. | “Eny izany tokoa. |
26 | He just didn't know how to communicate it.” | Tsy hainy fotsiny ny mamboraka azy” |
27 | The Duranno Father School was started by a church in Seoul in the 1990s, as a response to an epidemic of absentee fathers in South Korea. | Nanomboka tao amin'ny fiangonana iray tao Seoul ny taona 1990 ny Duranno Sekolin'ny Raim-pianakaviana, ho setrin'ny areti-mifindran'ny tsy fahabangàn'ireo ray tao Korea Atsimo. |
28 | Korean men work some of the longest hours in the developed world, Confucian values praised them for not expressing their emotions, and for some, it was the norm to physically discipline their kids. | Ireo raim-pianakaviana Koreana no miasa mandritra ny ora lavabe indrindra any anatin'ny tontolon'ny tany mandroso , derain'ny soatoavina Confucian ry zareo noho ny tsy fanehoan'izy ireo fihetseham-po, ary ho an'ny sasany, io no fenitra mba hampanarahan-dalàna ara-batana ireo zanany. |
29 | By the third day, a few students have already dropped out. | Ny andro faha-telo, mpianatra vitsivitsy sahady no nitsoaka andaharana. |
30 | But those who remain are surprisingly honest in their sharing. | Saingy ireo izay nijanona kosa nahagaga fa nahatoky tsara tamin'ny fizaràny. |
31 | Most say they've been disappointed by their own fathers, one worries about his teenage son, and another confesses he doesn't see much of his grown children. | Ny ankamaroany dia milaza ho diso fanantenana tamin'ireo ray niteraka azy, ny sasany sorena noho ny ataon'ny zanany lahy efa lehibe, ary ny sasany manaiky fa tsy dia nahita firy ny fitomboan'ireo zanany. |
32 | A few admit with chagrin that they've turned out to be a lot like their own dads. | Ny sasany manaiky amin'alahelo fa nanjary nitovitovy tamin'ireo rainy izy ireo. |
33 | At the Father School graduation, men wash their wives' feet, just as Jesus washed the feet of his disciples in the Bible. | Mandritra ny fanomezana maripankasitrahana ao amin'ny Sekolin'ny Raim-pianakaviana, manasa ny tongotry ny vadiny ireo lehilahy, tahaka ny nanasàn'i Jesosy ny tongotry ny mpianany ao anaty Baiboly. |
34 | Credit: Heidi Shin. | Sary: Heidi Shin. |
35 | Used with PRI's permission | Nampiasaina nahazoana alalàna tamin'ny PRI |
36 | And the school's not just about being a better dad. | Ary tsy fanomanana ray mendrika kokoa fotsiny ny sekoly. |
37 | The men are assigned homework, like writing letters to their wives, and sharing a list of 20 reasons why you love her. | Nomena asa entimody ireo lehilahy, toy ny fanoratana taratasy ho an'ny vadiny, ary ny fizaràna ny lisitr'ireo antony 20 itiavanao azy. |
38 | Give her the kind of the attention you did while you were dating, the instructor urges. | Manome azy karazana fijerena manokana toy ny fanaonao fony ianareo nampiaraka, hoy ny mpampianatra mamporisika. |
39 | One of the men shares the heartfelt letter he's written to his wife. | Mizara ny taratasim-pitiavana manohina fo nataony ho an'ny vadiny ny iray amin'ireo raim-pianakaviana. |
40 | Since coming to the US four years ago, he admits life has been harder than he expected. | Hatramin'ny nisian'ny sekoly tao Etazonia, efatra taona lasa izay, ekeny fa mafy kokoa noho izy nandrasany ny fiainana. |
41 | “Living in a small apartment with children, unable to speak the language or find work,” he says, “we grew tired, and said more hurtful words than we intended.” | “Miaina anaty trano kely miaraka amin'ireo ankizy, tsy afaka miteny ny teny na mahita asa”, hoy izy, “mitombo anaty havizanana izahay, ary niteny mahery mihoatra noho izay noeritreretinay.” |
42 | As it turns out, parenting is hard, and the stresses of immigrant life only make it harder. | Araka ny fandehany, henjana ny mitaiza, ary ny rarintsaina noho ny maha-mpifindra monina koa vao mainka manasarotra azy. |
43 | So a version of the Duranno Father School launched in the US in the early 2000s. | Noho izany, natomboka tany am-piandohan'ny taona 2000 tao Etazonia ny dika ho an'ny Sekolin'ny Raim-pianakaviana Duranno. |
44 | A Korean version meets the needs of more recent immigrants, while an English language school serves the next generation. | Mamaly ny filàn'ireo mpifindra monina vao haingana ny sekoly amin'ny endriny Koreana, raha toa ka manampy ny andian-taranaka manaraka ny sekoly miteny Anglisy. |
45 | Over the years, the school has expanded to more than 40 countries around the world, with more than 300,000 graduates. | Nandritra ny taona maro, nihanaka manerana ny firenena maherin'ny 40 eran'izao tontolo izao ilay sekoly, ahitana olona maherin'ny 300.000 nahazo maripahaizana. |
46 | In fact, the school is staffed entirely by graduates. | Raha ny marina, ireo notolorana maripahaizana no mitantana manontolo ny sekoly. |
47 | The older men say they don't want to see younger dads repeat their mistakes. | Lazain'ireo lehilahy zokinjokiny iray fa tsy tian'izy ireo ny mahita ireo raim-pianakaviana tanora mamerina ny hadisoana nataon'izy ireo. |
48 | They don aprons and serve up coffee, as they share their own stories during breaks. | Apetak'izy ireo ny aron'akanjony ary arosony ny kafe, zarain'izy ireo miaraka amin'izany koa ny tantarany mandritra ny ora fiatoana. |
49 | Frankly, they say it's easy to revert to their old selves in a matter of months, but in coming back to volunteer, there's a community that keeps them accountable, says alum Dave Lee. | Marina mihintsy, resaka volana vitsy monja dia mora hoy izy ireo ny miverina amin'ny fanao taloha, saingy raha miverina ho lasa mpanao an-tsitrapo, misy vondrom-piarahamonina iray mitaiza azy ireo ho tompon'andraikitra, hoy Dave Lee - miloko alimo. |
50 | “Even though I fall back on it sometimes,” he says, “through this school, it made me closer to my family - my wife and my children. | “Na dia tafalatsaka matetika amin'io aza aho,” hoy izy, “amin'ny alalan'io sekoly io, no mampifanantona ahy bebe kokoa amin'ny fianakaviako - ny vadiko sy ireo zanako. |
51 | I'm able to reflect back on things I've done wrong, or could have been done differently.” | Afaka mandinika ireo ratsy izay nataoko aho, na afaka nanome tamin'ny fomba hafa.” |
52 | A couple poses for their graduation photo at the Duranno Father School. | Mpivady maka sary noho ny fahazoany maripahaizana tao amin'ny Sekolin'ny Raim-pianakaviana Duranno. |
53 | Credit: Heidi Shin. | Sary: Heidi Shin. |
54 | Used with PRI's permission | Nampiasaina nahazoana alalàna tamin'ny PRI. |
55 | Families are invited to join the fathers for their graduation ceremony. | Omena fanasàna hanatrika ny fanomezana maripahaizana ireo raim-pianakaviana ireo ny fianakaviany. |
56 | The men change into the school's signature referee striped shirts, as a symbol of their transformation. | Manova ny akanjo amboniny ho ny ilay mitsipitsipika toy ny an'ny mpitsara lalao ahafantarana ny sekoly ireo lehilahy, sahala amin'ny marika iray milaza ny fiovan'izy ireo. |
57 | At the close of the night, the men file in with towels over their shoulders. | Ny alina famaranana, mitokana miaraka amin'ireo lamba famaohana eo an-tsorony ireo lehilahy. |
58 | They kneel before their wives and wash their feet gently, just as Jesus washed his disciples' feet in the Bible. | Mandohalika eo anatrehan'ireo vadiny ry zareo sady manasa am-pitiavana ny tongotr'izy ireo, tahaka ny nanasàn'i Jesosy ny tongotry ny mpianany ao anaty Baiboly. |
59 | Women lean forward in their chairs, dabbing their eyes with tissues. | Miankina eo amin'ny sezany ireo vehivavy, mamafa ny masony amin'ny lamba kely. |
60 | I meet a woman in her 50s, as she links arms with her husband and waits in line for their graduation photos. | Mahita ramatoa 50 taona aho, mifampitantana amin'ny vadiny sady miandry ny laharany haka sary fahatsiarovana ny fizarana diplaoma. |
61 | She's holding flowers and eager to talk about the changes she sees in her husband. | Mitazona voninkazo izy ary maniry fatratra ny hanambara ireo fiovàna hitany amin'ny vadiny. |
62 | “You know, Korean men, they enjoy drinking.” | “Hainao ihany, ireo lehilahy Koreana, tia misotro.” |
63 | She says her husband has agreed to drink less, and she's thrilled. | Nanaiky ny tsy hisotro betsaka intsony ny vadiny, hoy izy, ka sambatra izy. |
64 | “I'm so happy to hear about this. | “Tena faly aho mandre izany. |
65 | Yes very, very happy.” | Eny faly, tena faly”. |
66 | Fathers put their arms around their children, and smile for the camera - their wives look relieved and hopeful. | Apetrak'ireo raim-pianakaviana eo an-tsorky ny zanany ny sandriny, ary mitsiky izy mba ho alaina sary - toy ny maivamaivana sady feno fanantenana ny vadin'izy ireo. |
67 | Meanwhile staff are already circulating, recruiting new graduates to join their ranks as Father School volunteers. | Mandritra izany fotoana izany, efa mivezivezy sahady ny mpiasa, mampiditra ireo vao nahazo maripahaizana mba hanatevina ny laharan'ireo mpirotsaka an-tsitrapo ao amin'ny Sekolin'ny Raim-pianakaviana. |